Constantly, I find myself being bombarded with questions and comments and backhanded compliments from strangers and people I know.
How are you still single? Are your standards too high? Is something wrong with you? You are way too pretty to be all alone. Have you downloaded any dating apps yet? You really need to start putting yourself out there more, it’s not like you have forever left!
Um, I’m sorry but, who the hell invited you into my dating life or lack thereof? And who the hell are you to judge me and my love life which you are not a part of?
I get it, I’m 24. I CLEARLY KNOW THAT. But why does a number have to define when someone should find love or not? And why does being in your mid twenties signal a notion for everyone to come running to you, knocking you down with question after question. What does being any age, have to do with love?
For god sake, people. THERE IS MORE TO LIFE THAN HAVING A SIGNIFICANT OTHER.
And before you judge someone for being single, or for not dating at a certain time, think logically, please. I’ve had three some what successful relationships. I’ve been in love! Like, real, fucking, big love. I’ve dated people from real life and from the internet, I’ve been ghosted by people who I crushed on big time on, and I’ve been incredibly heartbroken by people I had never even dated.
Sometimes, it’s a persons decision to be single. Sometimes, people just don’t want a significant other. And it doesn’t mean that anything is wrong with them. It doesn’t mean that they are lonely. It doesn’t mean that their standards are too high.
It just means that they don’t give a fuck.
Life does not stop turning when someone chooses to be single. The world doesn’t crumble or end. Life doesn’t suddenly turn dark when you choose to be single. And for me at this time in my life, I actually want to be single.
Maybe it’s shocking to you. Maybe it’s unsettling to you. Maybe you think I’m a fool for not even looking for someone to spend the rest of my life with.
But honestly, it’s none of your damn business.
My love life is mine, not anyone else’s. And when the time comes when I want to settle down and truly find someone to spend the rest of my life with, it still won’t be any of your business to stick your nose into.
So, to answer all of your nagging questions, yes I’m single and yes I’m happy, and yes I get lonely, and yes I love love and eventually want it. But not right now. Not now. Truthfully, there’s more important shit to care about in the world than finding my other half. And that’s not my priority right now.
What’s it to you?